She Doesn’t Need A Label. 

Family, That Mom life


Growing up , I was on the petite side, so I would always hear the same comments from people:

“OMG you are so skinny.”



Do you eat?”


Now, many years,2 kids and 9,876 pizzas later ( I’m absolutely sure I’m underestimating that one ) the comments aren’t directed at me, but I still hear them.

Unfortunately, now they are directed towards my daughter.

My 3 year old daughter. 

People often feel the need to tell her how small she is. How skinny she is. What we should add to her diet. 

Some people may not think being told your “small” is the worst thing in the world. But now I have a 3 year old daughter that is soaking in every word everyone says like a sponge. And every time someone makes a comment about who she is, or how she is, it affects her.

Any label in general towards a child is unnecessary. Too big, too small, too loud, too quiet. 
What are we trying to accomplish when we say those things?
Do we like when we are negatively labeled? 
What makes a person think that a child won’t have those same feelings?
I am sure most people are not saying these things to be hurtful or judgmental on purpose. I am just trying to shed light on a subject that many parents may usually skim over because , maybe they don’t want to be confrontational, or at the moment it may not seem like an issue. 

But insecurities are not genetic. You aren’t born feeling like you were too loud, or too quiet, or too weak or too small. At some point, you were labeled as such. 

Let’s stop that cycle with this generation.

Let’s just let our children , be children. Give them a chance to figure out who they are, what they are, without our labels dissuading them. 

Let them not believe they have to change who they are to be accepted as normal. 


Let them be happy with the way they look. The world will eventually try to tell them they need to change because it’s not good enough. Let them have these precious few years where they just don’t care. 



In the wise words of Billy Dean , let’s just “let them be little.” 

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Norah’s Finding Dory themed 1st Birthday party 

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We  had such a wonderful time celebrating Norah’s first birthday! We decided to keep it small and simple. I realized there was no point in going overboard because , I did that the first time, and let’s be honest, Selah does not remember or care about her first birthday! So we kept the guest list intimate and the decorations very low cost!

                        A very simple welcome sign!

construction paper goes a long way with decorations ! 😀 

The net was actually Selah’s indoor soccer net!

It’s nice to look around your house and see what you already have on hand that you can use before you start buying your decorations. 

 I got the pictures developed from Walgreens . There are always coupon codes available for Walgreens photos, so I was able to upload all her 1st year pictures from my phone and develop them for less than 6 bucks! The rest of the pictures were randomly placed all throughout the house.


I found the idea on Pinterest for the streamer seaweeds! such a cute and  inexpensive way to decorate all of the wall space if you are doing any kind of underwater theme!🙌

The background was just plain blue gift wrapping paper. Cost less than $4 a roll. And again , construction paper for the win!🙌

Another Pinterest find! Just a balloon, 2 small white paper plates for the eyes, black marker to color it in, and streamers for the legs( are they called legs??) Another easy way to decorate all around the room or makes a great center decoration .


If you are in an area that has a Publix, always go with a Publix cake! The smash cake is free with the purchase of a 1/4 sheet cake. Besides, its ridiculously delicious. Actually, just go to Publix for everything. Always. Yay Publix🙌

the backdrop for the smash cake setting is just a blue sheet we already had. We tacked that up to the wall and I just cut and pasted some 1 signs. I had actually pasted some of her 1 year pics on the sheet too… but I guess I took this picture before I did that😐

That was it! Simple and sweet! Of course it’s your baby’s party, so if you want to go all out… go for it ! For us, we just realized we didn’t want to deal with all of that hassle again this time around ! Happy planning! 😀

5 Things You don’t realize You’ll miss.

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Does 12 months really go by this fast??? It’s bittersweet. There is a part of me that’s so excited to see what will become of this fiesty  little beaut. But at the same time, I realized there are so many things I will miss!

When I first had Selah, I was so anxious for her to grow up because I felt like the  first few months were so tough. Little did I know those were actually some of the easier days I would have…

In honor of my littlest bug Norah , I put together a list of

TOP 5 THINGS YOU DONT REALIZE YOU’LL MISS!


#5. Teeny tiny baby cry   

-It’s true. You may think it’s hard to listen to right now, but just wait. It gets worse. Instead  of a faint sweet baby cry ( that’s what I call it now , looking back) it will turn into shrill screeches. My husband and I like to call Norah’s  cry,the elephant-cat. yes, it’s as annoying as it sounds😖

#4. napping for 18 hours a day

the 8 times a day quickly turn into 5, then 3,2, then you just pray that some point in the day they look at your face, have a little mercy, and allow you to take a 5 minute break😬


#3.  the easy appetite 

– hungry? boob or bottle. those were your options. As they get older, mealtimes get fun, but definitely require a little more thought!  The worst is spending X amount of time making (what you think)!is the ultimate meal, and watching it end up all over the floor😬

#2. easy to please 

– enjoy these days where they are thrilled with cardboard boxes and wrapping paper.

#1. no talking back

– When I had Selah, I thought I’d be so anxious to hear those first words…and I was! It was all the words that came after those first words that drove me crazy. I look at my 1 year old that only says Mama,dada,and bubbles!, and  just want to hold on to those innocent moments a little bit longer. As I listen to my threenager talk, reason, argue, complain … I  realize how much I will miss those simple words. Whether  it’s at 3 or 13…I promise, it’s coming😬


There is beauty in every season. Enjoy these moments now while they last because who knows what the future holds.

xoxo.

The “knot” so hard headband.

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I have always wanted to learn how to sew. Years ago, I watched one episode of Project Runway ,and it was at that point I realized I wanted to sew my own clothes.

Spoiler alert…

That never happened. I bought a machine, but after a couple feeble attempts, I realized dressmaking was not my calling.

Which is why I was so happy when I came across this No sew turban headband!

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This is by far, one of the easiest projects I have ever done. If you are anything at all like me and aren’t really all that nifty with needlework, but want to feel like a Susie homemaker or a Peggy Pinterest ( I just came up with that name…I’m kind of proud of it) then, this is the project for you too!

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To get started, you need a few things:

1) an old Tshirt
2) scissors
3) 2 minutes

yep! Thats it!

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I had a few old XL pregnancy Tees that I didn’t think were good enough to donate that I decided to use. I would think another inexpensive option, if you didn’t have any tshirts you wanted to cut up, would be to grab some Camis from Forever 21. They are usually on sale for less than $2, and you could make 3 or 4 different headbands with 1 Cami depending on the size headband you’re making.

Start by cutting horizontally along the bottom of the T-shirt.

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Next, twist it into a figure 8.

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Then, twist it again.

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Fold in half.

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And you’re done!

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See! I didn’t lie! Literally one of the easiest things you will ever do.

As I have previously stated, I am Not a super crafty person.  I didn’t measure or use a ruler  to make sure I cut straight. You can basically do what you want with this. The nice thing about using these T-shirts is that the fabric is stretchy and comfortable. Both of my girls keep them on with no issues!

These headbands are easy,quick, and super cheap.If you have ever tried to look up trendy headbands for babies/toddlers , they can range from $10  and up for 1! I have always gotten compliments whenever I throw one on Selah. A bonus is if you have more than 1 girl, you can make matching ones! Hope it works for you!

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The Proverbs Woman

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For those of you reading that are of Christian faith, you have most likely heard of the Proverbs woman. Growing up in a christian home and going to women’s bible studies, it has pretty much been embedded into my brain that she is Thee perfect wife.

We are taught to strive to be That woman. The homemaker.  The farmer. The accountant. The entreprenuer. The philanthropist. The superwoman. I’m pretty sure somewhere in there it says she flies and fights crime.

No,no ,no it doesn’t say that.

But you get the idea.

If you have never read Proverbs 31, I highly recommend it, but for the sake of keeping this short and sweet I just want to take a closer look at verses 21-22.

21When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

 

they are clothed in scarlet.

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an oldie of Selah, but I (surprisingly) had no other pictures of my little lady in red!

 

she wants her family to look their absolute best. When it’s cold, she doesn’t just grab some grey wool shes got lying around. She doesn’t take her job of taking care of the house lightly. She knows that how her family looks when they go out is a reflection on her.

“…she is clothed in fine linen and purple”

I love this.

she takes care of herself.

Often times, we as women ( especially wives and mothers)  spend so much time taking care of everyone else, we forget ourselves.

Everyone focuses on the things this Proverbs women does for everyone else, but try to remember, in the midst of all of that…

she takes care of herself.

It doesn’t say she walked around in rags while her family was dressed for success. She wore fine linen and purple, the color of elegance. In the same way she knew her family was a reflection of her, she realized She was a reflection of her family.

This does not mean:

  • you need to go out and spend 100s of dollars on new outfits for you and your family.
  • how you look on the outside is all that matters
  • you need to look up the latest fashion trends to look your absolute best

what it does mean :

  • take time on your children. they are God given. Cherish them. Help them look and feel their best!
  • Dress in a way that you  can feel just as good on the outside as you do on the inside.
  • if you (hopefully) keep reading Proverbs 31, you will read

v.25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.

and

v.30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Outward beauty will always fade. This woman had an inward beauty that she focused on just as much , if not more. But, I truly believe we ALL were created beautiful by our Creator, so why not take pride in that?

 

Taking time on yourself is never a bad investment.

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Striving to be that Proverbs woman isn’t a bad goal! But while you’re working on your inner beauty and your daily tasks, don’t forget the woman in  verse 22.

xoxo.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What’s important?

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Reading is beautiful. Before I became a mom, one of my absolute favorite pastimes was reading. Sure, I still read, but now instead of romance and mystery, its more Baby web MD and “how to get paint off the wall” articles.

That still counts as reading!

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Luckily, the public library offers story time for almost all ages. A win for me because
1) its free!
2) instills a love of reading at a young age!
3) gives me a chance to spend quality time with my girls.

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Selah and I have been going to story time  ever since she was a baby. I love  these simple moments where we can sit together and listen to a story, sing songs and nursery rhymes.

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Maybe you work during the week and aren’t able to take trips to the library.

That’s OK.

Maybe a good bedtime story and snuggle is all your little one really needs from you.

Or maybe reading really isn’t your thing.

That’s OK too.

If you’re active, go for a walk together.

If your crafty, do crafts together.

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But make quality time a priority.

Every night, I ask Selah one question : what was your favorite part about today?

Some of Selah’s favorite moments have been sitting in her playroom reading her favorite book.

Or having daddy push her on the swings at the park.

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If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money.
                          – Abigail Van Buren

You may not have all the time in the world with your kids, but how do you spend the time you do have?

The Most Beautiful Thing

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When I first got into dressing up Selah, I would occasionally have people compliment her outfits. I had once jokingly replied that I just put her in outfits that I wish I could wear myself , but didn’t think I could pull off!

When I thought about it though, maybe there was a little bit of truth in that comment

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When I put Selah in an outfit, the first thing she’s thinking isn’t ,” Do I look fat in this?

“Will people laugh at me?”

“Is this top last season?”

For her, its simple : I like it,  I wear it. I don’t, then I won’t.

So why is that logic so easy for a 3 year old to comprehend, yet we as grown ups struggle with it?

We are constantly concerned about what others think.

We lack confidence.

The world has become so judgmental. We see it all the time in the media.

Who wore it best? 50 worst dressed celebrities! What was she thinking!”

The world has stripped us of our confidence.

We are afraid to wear what we want, do what we want, Be who we want, because we are afraid of what others will say about it.

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She has taught me to think different.  She  puts on an outfit, and struts out of the room without a care in the world.

Thats who I want to be.

The one who isn’t concerned about who’s looking.

You want to wear something? Wear it. Don’t think about it. Don’t think about who’s judging you. If you feel good in it, that’s all that matters.

You want to do something different? Do it.

Have confidence in you.

Once you have that, comments from others won’t matter nearly as much.

Find your inner 3 year old that hasn’t been torn down by the world:D

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As a parent, I would love to shield my daughters from any negativity, but that’s not possible. So in the meantime, the best thing I can do is build up their confidence.

Maybe then, that confident 3 year old will turn into a confident 30 year old

The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence. – Blake Lively