When I first got into dressing up Selah, I would occasionally have people compliment her outfits. I had once jokingly replied that I just put her in outfits that I wish I could wear myself , but didn’t think I could pull off!
When I thought about it though, maybe there was a little bit of truth in that comment
When I put Selah in an outfit, the first thing she’s thinking isn’t ,” Do I look fat in this?
“Will people laugh at me?”
“Is this top last season?”
For her, its simple : I like it, I wear it. I don’t, then I won’t.
So why is that logic so easy for a 3 year old to comprehend, yet we as grown ups struggle with it?
We are constantly concerned about what others think.
We lack confidence.
The world has become so judgmental. We see it all the time in the media.
“Who wore it best? 50 worst dressed celebrities! What was she thinking!”
The world has stripped us of our confidence.
We are afraid to wear what we want, do what we want, Be who we want, because we are afraid of what others will say about it.
She has taught me to think different. She puts on an outfit, and struts out of the room without a care in the world.
Thats who I want to be.
The one who isn’t concerned about who’s looking.
You want to wear something? Wear it. Don’t think about it. Don’t think about who’s judging you. If you feel good in it, that’s all that matters.
You want to do something different? Do it.
Have confidence in you.
Once you have that, comments from others won’t matter nearly as much.
Find your inner 3 year old that hasn’t been torn down by the world:D
As a parent, I would love to shield my daughters from any negativity, but that’s not possible. So in the meantime, the best thing I can do is build up their confidence.
Maybe then, that confident 3 year old will turn into a confident 30 year old
The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence. – Blake Lively